Walking Through Transitions

I recently wrote about HSPs and their struggles with developing self-compassion. For HSPs that have  gone through a traumatic experience, this struggle is even harder. Trauma, by its very definition, is overwhelming. To deal with it, we might have run away into our minds and away from our bodies.

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There have been times in my life where I have urged myself to “Jump,” “Just jump,” and then fallen back ashamed because I just couldn’t do it. Something was holding me back. What, I couldn’t quite figure out. And so, I stayed suspended in that moment of trying to jump and not jumping, berating myself for not having the nerve to do it. […]

Everything comes with its darkness and its light. The same thing that gives us our gifts also gives us our challenges. As HSPs, we notice subtle details, and our life is enriched by them. As HSPs, we notice subtle details and get so lost in them that we lose sight of the context.

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I have been thinking and reading a lot about emotions. I have been taking off a bit of my “nice” mantle, and seeing how nice serves as a smoke-screen. It blocks me from the real work of handling my own emotions. Distracted by outside demands, I can  avoid the hard work of taking responsibility for my own self. […]

Understanding our emotional lives is important for all of us. But, handling our feelings is something we are never taught. Whatever we learn is usually through a process of trial and error. We also learn to label emotions as “good” and “bad” depending on the reactions we get when we express them. If, as a child, our anger was never acknowledged or looked at, then we might have a loaded relationship with it. […]