Walking Through Transitions

What’s one challenge you face when interacting with people? Sometimes, the biggest dissonance for me is when I can see what is motivating the other person, but they themselves can’t see it. It seems like they are not even aware of what’s driving them. Sometimes though, I felt doubtful about my own perceptions because I had the belief that everybody is equally aware of what is happening inside them.  […]

I have made the best decisions when I have followed my intuition. I have made the worst when I have willed my way through situations that didn’t feel right. This feeling, that was so easy to rationalize away, was first a nudge and then an insistent hammering. But I was used to discounting my feelings, and so I pushed against them mightily, instead of heeding them and changing direction.
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We all have certain beliefs about our sensitivity. Some of them have dripped down to our very core and color everything we look at.

Lately, I have been thinking about self-acceptance and feeling that in many ways, I have just gotten hold of the wrong end of the stick. […]

This morning, I read something on the lovely Brainpickings website by the fierce and kind Pema Chodron. This is what she says: “The problem is that the desire to change is fundamentally a form of aggression toward yourself. The other problem is that our hangups, unfortunately or fortunately, contain our wealth. Our neurosis and our wisdom are made out of the same material. If you throw out your neurosis, you also throw out your wisdom.” […]

I have been experimenting with saying No a lot more. Although it’s becoming easier, it takes some energy and makes me irritable. Why did the person ask? It’s as if my anger at the cost it takes to say No comes lashing out at the terribleness of this poor person. Why are they making me feel so bad? 

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