Some time back, in my blog post on lessons that I have learnt from four years of blogging, I talked about how someone reacted negatively to an article I had written and told me that they had found a quote that I had used problematic. This was the piece and this is the quote: “Wonder is not a disease. Wonder, and its expression in poetry and the arts, are among the most important things which seem to distinguish men from other animals, and intelligent and sensitive people from morons.” Obviously, the word “men” had been used by Alan Watts to stand in for “human beings.” For those of us who read fiction and nonfiction from a certain era, we have all come across this usage before.
Recently, my sister shared this insightful and fun Youtube video with me from Cassandra Aarssen’s youtube channel about identifying your organizing style, which I think other HSPs and sensitive creatives will also resonate with. Although I am pretty organized now, I have always considered myself a messy person. Even now, my kitchen is super-organized (I consciously taught myself to keep it this way to reduce overwhelm as I set up house in America after moving here from India) but my closet has lots of clothes on the floor that drive my efficient INTJ husband mad and my arts table is often strewn with tubs of paint and assorted books.
As an INFP as well as a creative person, I have found that traditional goal-setting has never really worked for me. When I look back, the times that I grew the most were times when I explored new territory and pushed buttons. Although I did work very hard during those times, the process of doing things was itself never linear. It was never about setting concrete steps that I would then execute in an orderly way.
I had never thought about this dynamic deeply till I came across fellow INFP writer and HSP Amanda Linehan’s blog. This was a while back, when I first discovered Amanda’s work. This time of the year seems ripe to share some of Amanda’s inspiring insights, especially as regards to how INFPs and other sensitive creatives can set goals in a way that works for them. So, here we go.
I have been in an evaluative mood recently. It’s not just about the start of another year, but also about getting older and wanting to really make progress on what’s important in my life. So, I have been feeling the need to really edit, not just physical belongings (a part of my life that is already quite stream-lined) but all the things that take up my time and that I give attention to.
What do I want to keep? What do I want to throw away? What’s the fear that stops me from letting go? Am I making any real progress? Why do I keep on getting distracted by what’s ultimately not important?
Because I have been in this mood of weighing and appraising, this post about going deeper instead of just wider on the Raptitude blog really spoke to me. In it, David talks about wishing to invent the tradition of a a “Year of Deepening.” […]
I started this blog a little more than four years ago. It was a year and a half after I moved from India to the United States. It was launched during a period of my life when I had, after years of feeling lost, begun to come back to the real me. Slowly, painfully, finally, I had answered the question that I had kept on asking myself all those years when I worked in a corporate job. “Am I an artiste?” “Am I? “Am I?”
Finally, I had said “I am.”